I got this email yesterday. A couple - maybe members, told me:
"xxxx.com is a website we are starting to build to create a worldwide database of naturist resorts and campgrounds; with also information on LGBT friendly locations. Comments and suggestions about our website would very much be appreciated."
Great idea, I thought. And then you get it all wrong from the beginning.
What is it with this mixing naturism into the alphabet soup of LGBT etc.? We are NOT part of that. We are not about hetero sexual orientation either. We are not about sex. When do you get it?
When guests book at our naturist resorts, they sometimes say "we are a gay couple and we would like to stay ..." what are we supposed to do with that information? We never have anybody write "we are a hetero sexual couple and we would like to stay ..."
Your sexual orientation is COMPLETELY irrelevant to naturism. I couldn't care less and I can use this information for nothing. On the contrary it makes me worried that you do not understand that naturism is not about sexual orientation, gender, race, colour, height, width, weight, length of hair or nails, piercings, tattoos, teeth with or without braces and what have you. It is a preference for spending as much time as possible with no clothes on. It is probably also a preference for doing so among other people who likewise have no clothes on. Because it feels good. And then you can add on a lot of other excellent healthy reasons, but believe me, nobody would be naturists for healthy reasons only - we are naked because for some reason it feels great and it inadvertently puts a smile on your face and it miraculously makes you want to be friends with all the other great naked people around you.
Regardless of all the other stuff.
We had a member some years ago, who was naked in the beginning. Shortly after, he went up to his room and put some jewellery on. A little later he went up and put a wig on and some lipstick. While all that was a bit unusual, nobody really had any problem with it.
It was not until he went up and came down in a black nightclub dress with his wig and makeup and jewellery that we had to tell him, that he was in the wrong place. We are into not wearing clothes. He thought it would be OK if it was clothes usually worn by any other gender.
We had to explain to him, that his clothes polluted our clothes free area. We could feel his frustration, that he had a difficult time finding a space where he could cross dress among other cross dressers, but this was our space and we had had a hard time fighting for acceptance of this space too. So he could choose between undressing or leaving. He left.
One if my frequent discussions with Khun Dao is about the sign at the pool at Barefeet Naturist Resort. It says: "No Sex In The Pool". Why is it there? With or without it, we tolerate sex at the pool no more or less than your average Sheraton hotel. So why do we put it up - and why don't they?
Instead I would love to put up another sign saying:
If at anytime during your stay you feel an urge to put on your clothes, please be considerate to other guests. Put it on in your room only or stay within the designated area behind the building until you are ready to take it off again.